Karla took her last drink December 31, 2018. With 583 away from alcohol, (at the time of recording) this is her story of living alcohol free (AF).
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Odette’s weekly installment of: Finding your Better You…..
Melanie Beattie says “What would happen if we let go of our camouflage of adaptation? What would happen if we owned our power to be ourselves?
Would people still like us? Would they go away? Would they become angry?
There comes a time when we become willing and ready to take that risk. To continue growing, and living with ourselves, we realize we must liberate ourselves”
It’s very vulnerable to show up as our authentic selves. The more we pursue a life away from alcohol the more we walk to liberate ourselves. The humble confidence that shows up allows us to show up authentically. Remember, there’s only one you.
[7:10] Odette introduces Karla.
Karla is 33, grew up in the suburbs of Los Angeles and has lived in San Francisco for the past 7 years. She is an executive assistant for a tech company in the Bay area. She lives with her partner (fiancé!) and her puppy. For fun she’s been working on some passion projects, SoberIRL is one of those!
[10:29] Can you give listeners some background on your drinking?
Karla said she started drinking when she was 19. She was studying abroad and hadn’t yet made friends. Drinking was an easy way to make friends. She mimicked their style of drinking. Karla called herself a “weekend warrior” in her style of drinking. It didn’t occur to her until after she stopped drinking that her drinking was beyond what someone for her stature should. By the time she was 21 she knew she had a problem. Between brown outs and black outs she was piecing together the nights out with her friends.
The juxtaposition between Karla the party girl and Karla the high achiever was a push and pull she felt deeply, but she didn’t know how to stop drinking.
[18:07] Where you stuck in this cycle for a long time?
Karla said she began seeing an alcohol counselor around the age of 25. The recommendation was to stop drinking, which she wasn’t ready for because it was also her social life. In July 2018 she was able to get 45 days. Using that time, she sought out other methods of getting sober. Until her birthday and then she drank again. Finally, on New Year’s Eve she was so hung over from the night before she couldn’t go with her partner to a party, and that was it for her.
[23:29] Tell me about the beginning of your sobriety.
Karla said she still felt those first 45 days, she was being punished because she couldn’t drink. This time around she didn’t tell anyone she was restarting, and she wanted to try to be kind to herself this time. She gave herself the grace to accept that this is difficult. She taught herself that not every thought that came into her mind was true.
[28:51] How did you find your community?
Karla said at first it was all on Instagram. She followed Holly on Instagram and drew a lot of strength from her because she saw similarities in Holly’s story. Also Bridge Club through Tempest was the first time she sat with others who wanted to live this life the same way. Karla knew she needed to find sober friends. With 8 months sober she attended the Recovery Elevator Bozeman retreat in 2019 and she felt herself really start to open up and found the ability to have fun and live life sober.
[34:21] Tell me how you feel now being an advocate for other people looking to get sober?
Karla said she never thought she would be in this position. She wanted to share being an openly sober Latina as she couldn’t find any others. She wants people to see that they can have fun and be a normal human at the same time. (Karla_is_Sober)
[37:22] Tell me about how you share so you can be the person you needed when trying to get sober.
Karla said she always felt because she was so high functioning, she couldn’t have a problem with alcohol. She told herself everything she was doing was normal. Karla wants to shed the shame and let people know that if alcohol isn’t serving you anymore, you can stop. Success doesn’t mean happiness. Karla wants people to know that people can turn their lives around and life can be so much more fulfilling.
[43:45] Do you get cravings?
Karla said not really at this point. It’s not a physical craving, it’s an emotional craving and it’s fleeting.
[45:41] Rapid Fire Round
- What is your go to response when you go to a party and someone offers you a drink?
- What’s your favorite NA beverage?
- What’s a lightbulb moment you’ve had in the journey?
- What is your favorite ice cream flavour?
Mint chocolate chip
- What would you say to Karla on day 1?
I love you and I’m so proud of you
- What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners that are thinking about ditching the booze?
You know where alcohol leads you, get first-hand experience of a life away from it.
You may have to say adios to booze…
If the DoorDash driver knocks on your door for your wine delivery, but you don’t remember ordering it.
Odette’s challenge this week:
You are good enough. Step onto the dance floor, we are waiting you!
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