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Check out our new AF writing course! Included with Café RE membership. Course times are at 7:30 pm EST
What you can expect in this writing course
We all have a story to tell. Ditching The Booze: Writing a New Narrative is a 5-week course to help you explore your sobriety story through journaling and writing prompts. When we drink, it’s so easy to get caught up in the rollercoaster of thoughts, feelings and emotions running through our minds. Writing helps to get out of your head, unpack those old narratives, leave them on the page, and begin a new story. It is a process of self-discovery, courage and finding your voice. Whether you’re on day 1 or 1,000, this course will help you explore the creative process of writing, reflect on and unpack your sobriety story in a safe space and establish a journaling practice to carry forward with you on this journey.
– Let go of perfectionism in writing
– Establish a journaling practice to aid in your alcohol-free journey
– Connect with nature through writing
– Unpack your story and find your voice
– In this course, we focus on connection – The course consists of smaller breakout rooms and group instruction.
– Sessions are 75 minutes followed by an informal “15 minute parking lot” discussion and Q&A.
– 72% of our Ditching the Booze course attendees remain alcohol-free for the duration of the course!
– In this 5-week course you’ll learn how writing can help build the foundation for a life where alcohol is no longer needed. Here’s what you can expect (*subject to change)
MONDAY OCTOBER, 2nd 7:30 pm EST – We are all writers
Welcome to Ditching the Booze: Writing a New Narrative. To start this course, we will work on embracing the concept that we are all writers and explore the healing benefits of writing in recovery. We will let go of the concept of perfectionism in writing, get to know each other a little bit and learn what the remainder of the course will entail.
MONDAY OCTOBER, 9th 7:30 pm EST – Looking Back
After getting a little more comfortable with putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard), we will do some reflective writing. In looking back on our own story, we can better understand ourselves, where we are in the moment, and how we got here.
MONDAY OCTOBER, 16th 7:30 pm EST – Addressing Our Addiction
Given that we are all here with a collective goal to stop drinking alcohol, it can be helpful to speak directly to our addiction. Similar to how Paul guides the podcast, we will do some exploratory writing about our relationship with alcohol.
MONDAY OCTOBER, 23rd 7:30 pm EST – Getting Present
While unpacking our story up until the present day can help us understand ourselves, our history, and our thought patterns, it is also important to get present in order to heal. Writing is a really amazing way to do this. In week four we will embrace the present moment, tune into our senses, and explore what it feels like on the page. At the end of the session, you will get some homework that will help you connect to nature through writing.
MONDAY OCTOBER, 30th 7:30 pm EST – Looking Forward
In week five, we will see what it feels like to dream big. We’ll do a bit of future-tripping if you will. In recovery (and particularly in early recovery), we are often overcome with the concept that we are, in essence, beginning a whole new life for ourselves. So, we will let our guard down a little bit in terms of the “well, I can’t do that because…” or “that won’t work because…” and explore what life *could* look like in the future we are trying to build right now.
Your Course Instructor
I’m Danielle and I no longer drink alcohol. Writing is a practice I have turned to since childhood, and it has been a guiding force in my sobriety journey. I also turned my passion for writing into my profession in my early 20s.
After blogging and journaling my way through some international travels, I topped up my university degree with a journalism diploma and hit the ground running. I worked as a print journalist for one of Canada’s largest news companies for a little over six years. In that time, I covered crime, education, court cases, community events and everything in between. I garnered awards from provincial news associations, as well as an award from the Ontario Paramedic Association for some in-depth work I did to raise awareness about the lack of mental health support available for first responders.
I consider my superpowers to be deep listening and excavating fascinating, relatable stories out of people who think that they have nothing of interest to share with the world. I am a firm believer that we all have a unique voice based on our own particular experiences and perspectives. We all have a story to tell.
Just prior to the pandemic, I pivoted out of journalism into freelance content and copywriting. Since then, I have focused my time and energy on helping small business owners share their stories with the world. I write and design websites for small business owners and entrepreneurs, and help them unpack and push out their messaging via social media, 1-on-1 consultations and writing workshops. I also freelance for large-scale marketing agencies producing SEO-focused digital content, and continue to produce news stories on occasion.
It’s all storytelling in the end to me. And when it comes to telling my own story in sobriety and beyond, writing has been an integral piece of the puzzle. Whether I share it with the world or burn it in ceremony after the fact – writing has always been, and continues to be one of the most important tools in my sobriety toolbelt.
WHAT IS CAFÉ RE?
Café RE is a community of like-minded individuals who are working together to achieve a new life without alcohol. Quitting drinking alone is nearly impossible, but when surrounded by others who share the same communal goal of an alcohol-free life, it’s not a matter of “if”, but “when” you ditch the booze. The Café RE Facebook groups are private and unsearchable which means that only members of the community can see who’s in the groups and what is being said. Whether you’re looking to quit drinking for a month, a year, or are simply sober curious, you’ll find the support needed to reach your goals in the community.
As I stated in the video, it seemed as if I was the only person on this planet with a drinking problem. One July evening in the summer of 2014, at 1:55 am I desperately searched for an online community, hoping to find something like Café RE. Unfortunately, I didn’t find a community, but I did find a Bud Light Lime advertisement on Facebook and guess what I was drinking moments after.
In Café RE you get 24/7 access to a loving group full of people across the globe who are all saying goodbye to the booze. In Café RE, quitting drinking doesn’t have to suck, in fact, it can be a lot of fun. I’m a firm believer that helping others is a great way to help ourselves which is why 10% of income goes towards our yearly service project where we partner with a non-profit that is geared towards helping those who are affected by addiction. In 2019, we partnered with Peruvian Hearts to help with restorations of homes outside of Cusco, Peru. – Paul
You’re never alone
With technology today, you can connect with others across the globe instantly with a smart phone. Members have access to the private non searchable Facebook group where you will find support and accountability from others who share the same vision of a better life. These groups are capped at 350 members to ensure intimacy
Members can choose to be paired with an accountability partner based on their sobriety date, age, and geographic location. The more accountability and connection you create; the more successful you’ll be on this journey. If you don’t feel your assigned partner is the best fit, no problem, we will get you a new accountability partner. You can be paired as many times as you ‘d like!
Café REMonthly Subscription
- Access to our private and unsearchable Café RE Facebook group
- Option to be paired with an accountability partner
- Access to our Member Site, where our member list, monthly chat calendar, resource page, and independent meetup information is housed
- Access to over 80 zoom chats per month (2-5 chats per day)
- Two 6 week courses per year – only for Café RE members
- Discounts to Recovery Elevator events/retreats/conferences
10% of monthly income is donated to non-profits! Check out your donations so far!
Here is what you can expect to see
A loving & supportive group
It doesn’t matter if you’re on day zero, one or fifty, you’ll find an incredible group of supportive non-judgemental people all across the globe in Café RE. In the groups, people open up about their most intimate struggles and collectively, we all come together to move forward in life without alcohol. This is a safe place, where you can give your authenticity a voice and be accepted just the way you are!
Meet-ups & retreats
With several meet-ups and retreats in the books, it’s safe to say these events are magical. Don’t just connect via the web, but meet in person and continue the conversation face to face. Members of the Café RE community can attend exclusive regional meet-ups, the national meet-up, retreats and all of the online webinars. These events are exclusively for Café RE members only.
Book Club & Movie Club
This may be the first book club where we actually read the book and don’t drink wine. Participate in active monthly discussions about the book which are sometimes attended by the author who wrote the book. We also have Movie club where we watch, and then discuss movies about recovery and getting sober.
Discounts & priority registration
For retreats and other events open to the Recovery Elevator audience, Café RE members get priority early bird registration times with discounts. Save up to $100-$300 on events and reserve your spot before others are allowed to register.
Attend and participate in private online webinars with industry professionals such as addiction counselors, therapists, dieticians, doctors, psychiatrists, recovery coaches, authors and more.
“Creating a safe and supportive alcohol-free community where people walk their path to authenticity and wholeness together.”
It’s tough to put a price on something that has the potential to improve every aspect of your life. Currently, access to this community is only $24 per month. Once you register, you’re locked in at your price. In the future, our price may increase, but for new members only. 10% of monthly fees go towards our yearly service project where we partner with a non-profit geared towards helping those who are affected by addiction. Another portion of monthly fees are allocated to our in-person meet-ups!
If you decide this isn’t for you, not a problem. Email firstname.lastname@example.org and we will cancel the subscription.
Café RE isn’t operated, organized, or ran by licensed therapists or addiction specialists. The community is a crowdsource of information and resources from what has worked for current members who have successfully quit drinking. Members may give suggestions and ideas that may not represent the viewpoints of Recovery Elevator as a whole and it’s important you do your own research and do what you feel is best for you personally.
What members have to say
I joined Cafe RE in February of 2019. When I arrived here I was broken and doing isolation drinking to feel better. Today, with 17 months AF, I can safely say I have found my tribe! Cafe RE has helped me to see my own unique greatness!
Café RE has shown me how important community is when getting sober. Whether it’s texting my accountability partner they paired me up with or simply replying to others posts in the Facebook group, there are always hundreds of people willing and able to help. I love the resources and webinars they have weekly – there truly is something for everyone! Thank you Cafe RE for showing me that I NEVER have to go through this alone!
I joined Café RE to continue my growth in sobriety. I attended AA for 1 year while listening to the podcast every week, as well as older episodes in-between new ones. I needed more connection and outside perspectives. Thats why I decided to add Cafe RE to my tool belt of recovery. I get to grow through so much more with these amazing like-minded people, and share in a journey that can only be described as beautiful. If you want to just stop drinking then punch a cop. If you want to get sober and live the life you were always meant to live, join Cafe RE. ~ Taylor Harley
Recover elevator has pretty much changed my life! That sounds like an exaggeration, but it’s not. I have tried to quit drinking several times in the last few years but always found myself going back to the bottle, feeling more lost than ever. Today I’m 70 days alcohol-free, and so much of it has to do with the community I’ve met in Café RE. The endless support, the listening ear, but also my chance to make a big change and actually HELP others! This is a place I feel free to be my weird eccentric self, I feel free to express my most difficult feelings, without judgement. Like?! Where does this exist in the world? I never want to loose that! I am learning to take my tools and experience of self discovery that Café RE has helped me form, and I’m implementing change in my life not just with overcoming my addiction to alcohol, but also to the woman I am. I am so proud of this woman! Cafe RE has shown me that I had the possibility inside me, it just needed to be activated! Internally grateful for this community!
I joined Café RE in September 2019, a little reluctant as it was the first recovery group I had ever joined. I was hesitant to put myself out there at first because I had no clue how recovery groups even worked. However, once I did put myself out there, I was met with an incredible amount of support from the most amazing group of people. I have been lucky enough to be a part of multiple in person meet ups since then. Some say this is where the real magic happens and they are completely right. 10 months later I can truly say I would not be where I am at today without the people in these groups. They have become my chosen family and I have formed life long friendships through Cafe RE. It has been the best support group! I am so lucky and grateful to be able to have them with me wherever my life takes me.
“Joining Café RE was one of the best decisions I have made for myself in recovery. Being surrounded by like-minded individuals who are all working to improve their lives is not only inspiring but also essential to understanding that we deserve a shot at recovering. Café RE is family to me. I’m grateful for it every day.” – Odette, 30, San Diego, CA
“Cafe RE was a game changer for me. When I first decided to stop drinking, I was way too intimidated to attend meetings in my area; Also, as a busy parent and professional, it was difficult to find the time. Cafe RE is an instant community of like-minded individuals that truly care about each other. I especially love the flexibility— between webinars, posts, and in-person meetups, I can be as involved as I need to be any hour of the day or night. I have been a part of other online groups, and this one is by far the most active and supportive.” – Tiffany, 34, Westminster MD
“Cafe RE has been hands down the best decision I have made for my Recovery journey. I look forward every day to checking in with the community for support, laughter, reflection, honesty, and real friendship. I truly consider it to be part of my self-care routine. I highly recommend Cafe RE for absolutely anyone (of any age) who wants a safe, no-pressure, nurturing environment on their journey and lots of opportunity for real connection. The in-person meetups and friendships that have developed from this platform have been icing on the cake for me.” – Lena, 47, Boulder, CO
“I’m so happy to be a part of Cafe RE! I’m also active in my local AA community, and at church, but no matter where I am or what time it is, Cafe RE is always with me. That round-the-clock support from real people that know you and care about you is, in many ways, the cure for the isolation of addiction.”- Andrew, 32, Seattle, WA
Okay, this sounds great, but I’ve got some questions…
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What does the monthly subscription give me access to?
Great question! Members will have access to the exclusive, non searchable, Facebook group where they can connect daily with other like minded individuals from all over the world at any time of the day. Members can choose to be paired with an accountability partner based on their sobriety date, age, and geographic location. All courses are included for Café RE members. Members can attend online meetings, online discussions, online book club, online movie club, online men's meetings, online women's meetings and online virtual hangouts. Members can attend Café RE specific independently organized meet-ups and the yearly Café RE service project. Members get discounts to Recovery Elevator retreats, LIVE events and alcohol-free travel trips. Members also get access to the member listing where they can connect via email to other members who live nearby or when they are traveling. we think $24 per month is a dang good deal.
What does ‘non-searchable’ Facebook page really mean?
This means that there is absolutely no way anyone can see who is in the group or what has been posted unless they are a paying member.
If I'm joining a community, will my name and email address be added to a member listing?
Yes, we've found the best way for people to build connections across the different Café RE groups is by linking them in a master Café RE group listing. We encourage members to reach out to someone via email in their hometown or if they are traveling. We've heard countless stories of people finding their "sobriety soulmates" from this member listing and it's perhaps the most important part of the membership. We list your first & last name, email address, city, and state. The members listing is a private portal that is accessible via password from Café RE Members only. We do not allow members to be omitted from or to use a false name on the members listing.
What is the current monthly fee for Café RE?
Currently it's $24 per month to connect with fellow like minded individuals who also want to ditch the booze. Roughly the cost of a few drinks at a restaurant of bar. Occasionally there is a price increase but current members are always locked in at their current rate.
Do I have to choose between a 12 step program and the Recovery Elevator membership community?
Goodness no. Café RE is a community to supplement whatever resources that are working for you. Several of our members attend 12-step meetings, smart recovery, while some only participate in Café RE. There is no right or wrong pathway out of addiction and if someone tells you differently...
I really want to join this community, but I can’t afford it. Does this mean I can’t join?
Let's make it work! Email email@example.com and let us know what monthly rate you're comfortable with. The lowest we allow is $1 per month. Just like when you see that monthly gym membership on your credit card bill, you get your butt in the gym, we want you to have some skin in the game and be an active member in the community.
Where does my monthly membership fee go?
10% of all monthly membership fees go towards our yearly service project where we partner with a non-profit. Another portion goes to the independently organized Café RE meet-ups where a dinner or activity is covered. And like any other entity, we have lighting, heating, office rent, monthly bills, wages, and salaries to pay. Also, we are saving up for an in person retreat facility in the southwest region of the United States or somewhere in Central America.
When is the amount deducted from my bank account?
The charge should post within 1-3 days depending on your bank and your next payment will be made exactly one month after your initial payment. Monthly payments will be made until the subscription is canceled. You can cancel by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.
How can I pay?
You can pay online with any major credit card. Currently we don't accept paypal, bitcoin or fresh mangoes.
What if I change my mind? How do I cancel?
You can cancel at any time. When you sign up, you're sent an email with a link to your dashboard where you can cancel. Or feel free to email email@example.com to cancel. Please let us know why you have decided to cancel so we can make improvements if need be.
I don’t live in the United States – can you explain if I’ll have full access to all the subscription offerings?
It might prove imprudent to attend a weekend meet-up if you're coming from London, but many members who live overseas do make the trip for longer retreats. Webinars are offered at times conducive for those living in the EU and Australia. You can request to be paired with an Accountability Partner who is in your same time zone and we'll do our best to accommodate that request. For courses, we do our best to pair you with others in a similar time-zone.
I relapsed after one week in the RE Community. Can I get a refund?
First off, I am sorry to hear about your relapse. Relapse was a big part of my story, and this journey can be difficult at times but in the end, I am the one responsible for my decisions and not Recovery Elevator, AA, or your parents. You can cancel at any time, but you will not be refunded.
What if I don’t like my accountability partner? Or I haven’t heard from them?
Be patient, as it may take time to get a response. If you haven’t heard from your assigned partner within 4-5 days, then email us at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will set you up with a new partner.
Are there any Terms and Conditions that I can read before signing up?
How frequent are the Café RE meet-ups? How will I hear about them?
Independently organized Café RE meet-ups take place about once or twice a month. These can be weekend excursions or lunch at a local restaurant. You're more than welcome to organize a meet-up and we love helping out! We inform members of meet-ups in the weekly Café RE email as well as create the events on the Facebook group.
Sober travel.. let's see the world. When is the next trip?
Check the events tab for the next alcohol-free travel itinerary. These trips are life changing. We're hoping for Costa Rica 2020 and possibly Peru, or western Europe in summer 2021.
Why is there a charge to be a part of this community? Alcoholics Anonymous is free!
Recovery Elevator has been clear from episode 1 on February 25th, 2015 that we are not affiliated with any 12 step programs. AA passes a basket which works for them... so technically, AA isn't free either. We tried the virtual basket and came up short. This is the model that we've found works best. Overall, it's a fraction of the amount spent monthly on booze.