Corey, with 5 days since his last drink, shares his story…
[8:48] Paul Introduces Corey.
Corey has been sober for 5 days. He’s from Minnesota, now lives in Boston. He’s 25 years old and is working full time. He likes to exercise. He loves music, plays guitar and piano. He has an upcoming trip to Columbia, is learning Spanish. He feels confused with life now that he has left the structure of school.
[13:31] Give us a little background about your drinking.
He started to drink a lot more during years in college. He started to experiment with weed in high school. He began to drink or party when he should have been studying. He didn’t realize there was something wrong at the time. He used his computer to avoid academic responsibilities. He was okay with it as long as he continued to deliver on his academic duties. He felt like he coasted through college and also began to coast through his first jobs. He found himself in the same behavioral patterns. He didn’t know where he was or what he was doing. He lost a romantic partner because of his partying. He drowned his feelings with drinking. The feelings came back up after a few months. He was caught in a weekly cycle of drinking and depression. He used a notebook to think out loud and he wrote down that he wanted to quit drinking and smoking to be comfortable with who he was. He devised a plan. Last year he tried to knock out one of the three (weed, tobacco and alcohol). He was so focused on change that he was able to quit tobacco. Before a family trip he felt suddenly depressed. He began to drink alcohol to try and cope with his feelings.
[22:10] How were you able to quit all 3?
He set a new year’s resolution to quit alcohol. He ended up getting a therapist and it has helped a lot. He went down to New Orleans and it broke his sobriety streak. He felt guilty. He let himself down. He is now searching for a way to enjoy friendships without booze being involved. Over the summer, he loosened his grip on quitting a little bit he hasn’t been able to shake it. He went to a Halloween party and was drinking, and didn’t feel good. He just decided to leave. At home he was depressed and began googling ways to end his life. He feels that is his rock bottom.
[29:51] How will you manage your drinking on your upcoming trip to Maine?
He doesn’t have a real concrete plan. He knows there will be temptation. He’s not sure what to do about it. He will try to text them and tell them that he won’t be drinking.
[32:48] What’s your plan in sobriety moving forward?
He bought some books. He wants to read those. He’s listening to podcasts. He wants to continue to learn and journal and continue to move forward. He’s concerned about his upcoming trips, but he’ll do his best and try not to judge himself.
[37:46] How have you been getting past cravings?
Having some sort of healthy beverage on hand. He drinks tons of water.
[39:03] What is on your bucket list in sobriety?
He wants to record a full album and get better at guitar. He wants to make the most out of his international trips coming up. He wants to quit also because he wants a family.
[40:34] Rapid Fire Round
- What was your worst memory from drinking?The incident where he drank and almost indulged in suicide.
- Did you ever have an “oh-shit” moment?When the denial ended and he got depressed. He drank to go to sleep. He realized he was damaging his health.
- What’s your plan moving forward?
- What’s your favorite resource in recovery?
Recovery Elevator podcast. He loves the format. He likes to hear about other people’s stories.
- What’s the best advice you’ve ever received (on sobriety)?To take it one day at a time. If he does today and then he does tomorrow, he doesn’t have to worry about the future.
- What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking?Just to get out of the trap of associating college with partying. It’s going to catch up to you.
- You might be an alcoholic if…“…you always pick up a 30 rack of beer multiple times in a week when you go grocery shopping.”
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