“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” – Cynthia Ozick
What is gratitude, and how can this help us get and stay sober? Service and Gratitude go hand in hand.
Here’s Paul’s Holiday challenge:
Write 10 things you are grateful for 10 days in a row. Be thankful for something you totally have taken for granted your entire life. After 10 days when you have 100 items listed, review the list, and look for reoccurring themes. Email your completed lists to Paul@recoveryelevator.com
Dan, with 66 days since his last drink, shares his story
[8:10] Paul Introduces Dan. I live a town called Guildford, about 30 minutes outside of London, I have 2 boys named Sebastian and Felix who are 4 and 7 years old, I live with my girlfriend, together we have 4 kids under the age of 9. For fun I enjoy working out, going to the gym, swimming, and desperately trying to learn to play guitar. I work in primary schools, and I deliver health and fitness workshops.
[15:58] Paul- 66 days ago, was this your first attempt at quitting drinking?
Dan- In all honesty, this is my very first attempt at stopping drinking. One time 10 years ago, I quit drinking for January and February. I don’t want to spend the money; I don’t want to feel crap. I want to set the example for my children growing up.
[23:00] Paul- Earlier you said you look at sobriety like a challenge, are you looking at this as an incredible opportunity?
Dan- Yeah, I am. After reading Alan Carr’s book, and Annie Grace’s book, it just puts things in perspective. You never used to have to have to have a bottle wine or beer to have fun, or enjoy yourself. The way I sleep the past couple of months. You feel so much better the way you start your day.
[28:02] Paul- What’s on your bucket list in sobriety?
Dan- At this point in time I really want to focus on my business, and my work. I would really love to do something on YouTube, or something that is focused on the positive of giving up alcohol.
[33:43] Rapid Fire Round
- What was your worst memory from drinking? Waking up on Christmas morning and clearing up the mess I made outside from getting sick on the way home on Christmas Eve.
- Did you ever have an “oh-shit” moment? I had 1 beer after playing golf. My cousin asked me if I wanted another, and that moment where I realized I was driving, and knew 1 more beer would put me over the limit.
- What’s your favorite resource in recovery? I enjoy reading, and listening to podcasts.
- What’s the best advice you’ve ever received (on sobriety)? Alcohol is shit, that’s it.
- What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? From day 1 start to focus on it as a challenge, and the benefits of it. Don’t focus on what you are giving up. Don’t focus on how hard anything is going to be. Focus on the benefits of giving it up, and how it’s going to make your life better.
- You might be an alcoholic if… you drink for absolutely no reason whatsoever. Not a celebration, not a sporting event, not a birth, not a wedding, if you sit there and drink at night watching crap TV, and you’re drinking a bottle of red wine. You might need to have a little think.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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Sober Selfies! – Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to firstname.lastname@example.org
“We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!”