Becky, with 10 months since her last drink, shares her story…………
What I learned after spending the weekend with 12 other people at a lake house:
- People did not care that I was not drinking
- People were appreciative to have a designated driver
- Drunk people have the memory of a goldfish
- Hangovers still suck
- Noticed potential problem drinkers
- Everyone overshot their mark
- Alcohol makes you act like an ass
- The yawn game sucks
- Snap Chat only exists because of drunk people
- Sober check ins are a good idea
- You can do sober weekends
[11:30] Paul Introduces Becky.
Becky – I have been sober for 10 months and live in Indiana. I work in the HR industry, am married and have 2 children. I like to garden and cook.
[13:00] Tell me about hearing your friend Lisa on the RE podcast.
Becky – I was starting to listen to a variety of podcasts on sobriety and heard Lisa’s story. I reached out to her via face book and she talked me through the process of AA. I was able to ask her questions. Something was guiding me.
[18:00] When did you realize you had a problem?
Becky – I was a binge drinker in high school but my drinking tapered off during my first marriage. I soon fell into having a glass of wine every night as a reward. I suffered from a major episode of depression and my therapist suggested I stop drinking. After the depression lifted, I continued drinking 1-2 bottles a night. I tried moderating but could not stop. I felt miserable inside.
[20:30] Tell me about your “yets”.
Becky – I would stumble around parking lots and pass out on the sidewalk. Anything could have happened. I would usually drink after a long day at work. I knew my mother was an alcoholic but I had so much shame that I could not stop. I suffered from black outs and self- loathing.
[24:21] How did you get sober?
Becky – I spoke with Lisa and told my husband. During the first week, I went to meetings. The first 30 days were tough both physically and mentally. Shortly after 30 days, I started to feel better.
[27:16] How was your patience during the first 30 days?
Becky – I was anxious and very short on patience during the first 30 days. The more I fought the craving, the worse it got. I allowed the craving to wash over me instead of fighting it. I was able to take a step back and just look at it.
[29:00] Paul and Becky talk about her hesitation with AA because of God
Becky – I was probably an agnostic before AA. I did not know how I was going to bring God into my life. But there were too many coincidences. There had to be a type of HP intervening. I just know that I could not do this by myself. Some people choose G.O.D. (group of drunks)
[31:49] How important is it for you to be surrounded by others in recovery?
Becky – I could not have gotten sober without my local meetings. I stay active in on-line support groups. It is critical for me to be able to connect with others.
[33:41] Describe a day in your life
Becky – I meditate every day and journal. I try and stay balanced between exercise and work. I have also created my own blog for personal accountability (www.my2point0project.com).
[36:26] What have you learned the most about yourself?
Becky – I am more of a type “A” personality than I thought. I want things done a certain way and have to learn to let that go.
[37:47] What is on your bucket list in sobriety?
Becky – I want to continue to wake up feeling good and strong. I want to help others find jobs and help schedule interviews for them.
[38:45] Rapid Fire Round
- What was your worst memory from drinking? not being sober when my father passed away
- Did you ever have an “oh-shit” moment? my decline was more slow and pervasive
- What’s your plan moving forward? go to bed sober tonight
- What’s your favorite resource in recovery? SHAIR and Rich Roll podcasts, book “Being Sober” by Harry Haroutunian
- What’s the best advice you’ve ever received (on sobriety)? I drink but we don’t
- What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? reach out, this is not a weakness
- You might be an alcoholic if…..you schedule your grocery shopping experience to not happen on Sundays – (because your state is dry on Sundays)
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Connect with Cafe RE– Use the promo code Elevator for your first month free
Sober Selfies! – Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to email@example.com
Book – Being Sober, author Harry Haroutunian
“We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!”